What Nobody Tells You About Ascension

Congrats! You’re ascending. Now what?


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I spent most of my 20’s going on spiritual journeys, both internally and around the world. I immersed myself in spiritual communities in Scotland, Australia, Brazil, Thailand and Indonesia. After years of inner work and developing my self-awareness and spiritual abilities, I returned to my home country thinking life would be easier. Somehow everything would work out for me. After all, wasn’t this was ascension was all about?

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Instead what I encountered was quite the opposite. I lost family and friends; I found the way of life around me disorienting and unrelatable; and I felt isolated, disillusioned, and rejected. The life I left behind when I embarked on my spiritual pilgrimage completely imploded and I was left in the rubble. What the hell happened?!

What Is Ascension?

First, it’s helpful to describe what exactly ascension is. According to Ask Angels:

“Ascension is the path of those who are choosing to consciously step into a higher level of light. It’s a personal choice to boldly step into the unknown in order to expand into an experience that is entirely new.

Ascension is actively choosing to evolve into higher consciousness.”

At the core of ascension is developing a greater awareness of self. It’s about understanding your true nature, not the roles you’ve had to play on earth: parent, child, sibling, partner, friend, co-worker. Who are you underneath all of that? What if you had no name? What would be left? That’s the part that needs to be connected with and explored. That’s the part that chose to come here on earth. That’s what stores your life purpose. That’s what can never be destroyed and never dies — it’ll be there even after your physical death.

How Do You Ascend?

Ascension is triggered by a desire to question yourself and your life. Typically, people can sense that there is something more to life than what they see. Even for those who aren’t attracted to the metaphysical and spiritual side of life, one can still start the ascension process by earnestly asking the all-important questions of “Who am I” and “Why am I here?” Then, by being dedicated to finding that answer, one becomes the seeker.

From there, there are as many routes to ascension as there are people on the earth. For me, that looked like meditation, prayer, journaling, inner reflection, spiritual retreats, energy healing, reading tarot and palms, yoga, and connecting with nature and my spirit guides. For others, it might be through art, music, fasting, therapy, etc.

Signs You Are Ascending

Here are some of the most common signs that you are elevating your consciousness and on the ascension path:

  • Things, places and people you used to enjoy no longer resonate with you. This is probably the most disorienting part of ascending. As you clear out the lower levels of your thoughts and emotions you also release the attachments you used to feel towards things you used to love (and hate). There is a level of neutrality and non-attachment that comes over. Hobbies, music and movie preferences, food cravings, places you used to enjoy simply change or fade away completely.  For example, I was really surprised to find that as a former lover of all things holidays (hello, Halloween and Christmas!), I discovered that I no longer cared about any of them. #random
  • You hate “small talk.” Since you’ve experienced much deeper aspects of who you TRULY are and the nature of the universe at large, the thought of superficial conversations makes you cringe. As you’ve had so much experience sitting with silence and the emptiness of “nothingness,” silence doesn’t make you feel uncomfortable whereas others might label it as “awkward silence.” You don’t feel the need to fill the gap unnecessarily. Which leads to the next point…
  • You thrive on deep, meaningful conversations. You need to feel like you’re connecting with people on a heart-to-heart level. It needs to feel real for you. It’s so much easier for you to now see the masks that people wear to hide their fears and you just can’t relate.
  • Your discernment is much higher. You can spot a dishonest person a mile away. In a more innocuous way, you just know when someone is saying something that they don’t really mean. People who are just being polite for the sake of it when there is no weight behind their words is something you can’t stand. Your bullshit meter is a finely tuned machine. Good for you, but not good for others who try to pull a fast one on you. As a result:
  • You don’t have nearly as many friends as you used to. Due to the two points above, your threshold and standards for entering friendships are much higher. You’re much pickier. You don’t enter them lightly because when you do, you bring a genuine and open heart. The relationships you do have are much more authentic and nourishing than the ones you had before.
  • You become more sensitive physically, emotionally and mentally. Loud sounds, crowded places, very talkative people, drama, gossip, misogynist or violent music, and scary/violent/sad movies feel far too invasive for your energy. It’s imperative that you keep your mind, body and soul clear and peaceful. You thrive living in a home that has plenty of natural light and is kept clean physically and psychically. Smudging your home has become a beloved ritual.
  • Your body reacts negatively to foods, drinks and smells you used to love. You might have been able to eat toast for breakfast, a sandwich for lunch and pasta for dinner, but now the thought of that much gluten and wheat makes your stomach hurt. If you used to enjoy alcohol, you no longer enjoy the taste. Also, your favorite name-brand perfumes/colognes have lost their appeal because they now smell too much like chemicals. You tend to opt for more natural-based products and essentials oils.
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Why Life After Ascension Gets Tricky

Now that you’ve gone through transformation (and it never ends, btw), you’ve learned many inner truths that can’t be taught in school, by your family, or by doing a Google search. You’ve gained wisdom and awareness.

You know way too much to go back to the life you used to live.

You no longer can relate to your old friends; their conversations seem shallow now. You can’t earn a living the way you used to; no more jobs just for the money. You no longer play the old role you had in your family; no more being suckered into guilt or manipulation. You reject the fear-based energy in society played out in the news, in consumerism, in politics, in gender roles, etc.

As a result, your family and friends might not understand or accept who you are now. You know you need to do something you love, but you haven’t started that dream business/project…and you need to pay bills NOW. You know that society’s beliefs and mass consciousness are a bunch of illusions, but you still live there.

All of this can leave you feeling disoriented and isolated because you no longer can relate to the old and familiar, but you haven’t fully manifested the new yet.

You’re reborn, but the things and people around you seem to have stayed the same.

How to Manage Life After Ascension

When I came back from my spiritual pilgrimages, an energy healer once told me that I had gone so deep, and cleared out so much “junk”, that it was as if I was in a void floating in outer space. My life was a blank slate upon which to create the life I truly wanted.

Ascension can be a lonely path

That feeling was so liberating for me, but also scary as hell. Now, I had to consciously create the life my heart truly wanted and align myself energetically to allow it to happen. This is what I have learned as a result.

  • Mentally prepare yourself for the inevitable changes in your old relationships. If you receive strong, negative reactions from people you love for the changes you’ve made in your life, it’s crucial that you not take it personal. (Easier said than done, I know.)  It’s not a reflection of you; it’s a reflection of them. Understand that when people react negatively, it’s always out of fear. People fear what they don’t understand, and since they didn’t live what you lived, and they don’t know what you know, this can immediately trigger fear and cause them to lash out. Try to have compassion for them by invoking times in your past when you didn’t understand someone else’s decisions. As misguided someone’s words or actions might be, they are doing the best they can, and they probably believe that they are trying to help you.
  • Get crystal clear about what your heart and soul truly want. Write it down on paper if that helps. Whatever it takes to make this a conscious effort between your heart and mind. Forget about whether the things you want are practical or realistic. Just let the thoughts flow.
  • Speaking of those dreams and desires, keep them to yourself (for now). It’s best not to share them with others, especially people who won’t understand. They might inflict their fears, worries, and limited beliefs about what is possible and stifle its growth and your faith. As you’re in the early stages of manifesting your new life, you’ll want to nurture it as much as possible to give it the best shot at bringing it to life.
  • Stay in touch with a few trusted advisors, healers or anyone else who understands you and the spiritual journey you’re on. I’ve relied on people I’ve met in the spiritual communities I used to live in, my husband who has also been on the awakening process, and other lightworkers I’ve met along the way for moral and spiritual support. This is crucial in helping me combat feelings of loneliness and isolation.

I hope these tips work for you! Be well, radical spirits. xoxo

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Christine is an intuitive empath, clairsentient, indigo adult, Reiki Master, EMF Balancing Technique® Practitioner and all-around free spirit. She has traveled to nearly 35 countries exploring different ways of life and developing her spirituality. She specializes in giving energy healing sessions and intuitive readings for people and pets.


Christine is an intuitive empath, clairsentient, indigo adult, Reiki Master, EMF Balancing Technique® Practitioner and all-around free spirit. She has traveled to nearly 35 countries exploring different ways of life and developing her spirituality. She specializes in giving energy healing sessions and intuitive readings for people and pets.

  1. Alex Kali says:

    Good stuff. It’s as though life is purely about acting through your heart and soul, the end. All the words in the world couldn’t substitute for living. I appreciate all of the words, and I definitely could pour out a novel here but that would complicate things.

    • You are very welcome! I think you’re right; life seems to be all about living through our hearts. I also have come to believe more and more, that life is about being as much of our true selves as possible.